“Although most boys figure out how to bring themselves to orgasm by age thirteen, half of girls do not have their first orgasms until their late teens, twenties, or beyond. Teenage girls widely agree that they get the message loud and clear that masturbation is something boys do, but girls do not, cannot, or should not. The cultural focus on intercourse tells young women to expect they will begin to experience sexual pleasure once they have sex with a man (whether or not they are even interested in sex with men). Nearly all teen boys, on the other hand, experience sexual pleasure long before they get their hands—or other body parts—into a partner’s pants. Despite the massive advances in women’s equality, young women’s sexuality is stuck in a surprising paradox. Young women are sold provocative clothes but are not taught where to find their own clitoris. Many girls give their boyfriends oral sex, but are too uncomfortable with their own bodies to allow the guys to return the favor. It is still a radical act to say that women need and deserve access to information about their own sexual pleasure—not just about the risks and negative consequences of sex.”
— (via compulsives)
(Source: lipsredasroses, via monaeltahawy)
• 22 May 2013 • 64,523 notes
The lobby of a New York office building in the 1980s, as photographed by Steven Siegel
• 22 May 2013 • 1,307 notes
He met Bill Murray.
Submitted by: Laura R.
Location: St. Andrew’s, Scotland
• 22 May 2013 • 10,005 notes
This is really all that matters.
• 22 May 2013 • 4,607 notes
“I was taught to see racism only in individual acts of meanness, not in invisible systems conferring dominance on my group”
Daily effects of white privilege:
1. I can if I wish arrange to be in the company of people of my race most of the time.
2. I can avoid spending time with people whom I was trained to mistrust and who have learned to mistrust my kind or me.
3. If I should need to move, I can be pretty sure of renting or purchasing housing in an area which I can afford and in which I would want to live.
4. I can be pretty sure that my neighbors in such a location will be neutral or pleasant to me.
5. I can go shopping alone most of the time, pretty well assured that I will not be followed or harassed.
6. I can turn on the television or open to the front page of the paper and see people of my race widely represented.
7. When I am told about our national heritage or about “civilization,” I am shown that people of my color made it what it is.
8. I can be sure that my children will be given curricular materials that testify to the existence of their race.
9. If I want to, I can be pretty sure of finding a publisher for this piece on white privilege.
10. I can be pretty sure of having my voice heard in a group in which I am the only member of my race.
11. I can be casual about whether or not to listen to another person’s voice in a group in which s/he is the only member of his/her race.
12. I can go into a music shop and count on finding the music of my race represented, into a supermarket and find the staple foods which fit with my cultural traditions, into a hairdresser’s shop and find someone who can cut my hair.
13. Whether I use checks, credit cards or cash, I can count on my skin color not to work against the appearance of financial reliability.
14. I can arrange to protect my children most of the time from people who might not like them.
15. I do not have to educate my children to be aware of systemic racism for their own daily physical protection.
16. I can be pretty sure that my children’s teachers and employers will tolerate them if they fit school and workplace norms; my chief worries about them do not concern others’ attitudes toward their race.
• 22 May 2013 • 8 notes
Dear misogynistic “feminists”,
I hate when I hear “You cant blame men for not respecting you or treating you right because (insert something misogynistic)” because hell yes I can. Are you truly excusing bad behavior men exhibit because of how a woman acts? Does having sex or showing your body some how make you less of a human being and less deserving to be respected? And are you truly measuring yourself worth through the judgement of a man?
Here is what makes that argument a giant “misogynistic feminist” contradiction. The idea here is that women are being treated poorly by men because we are acting like “whores” e.g. having promiscuous sex, showing our boobies, dressing provocatively. Ok so that idea in its self is completely misogynistic but I can understand the thought process of a misogynistic feminist… the idea is that woman are constantly being sexualized within our culture and by women acting promiscuous and provocative they are only perpetuating these ideas to men. However in making the argument that we as women need to stop showing our boobies and having promiscuous sex or being comfortable to openly talk about our sex lives because that is how we will get men to treat us better, you are attaching a woman’s worth to her body which is exactly what you are trying to argue against. In order to be respecting we have to stop demonizing women for being sexual. There is nothing wrong with sex, feeling sexual, being sexual, or being comfortable with being sexual. In order to change these sexualized ideas about a woman’s we have to stop feeding into these ideas that our worth is attached to our bodies. We have to stop telling other woman what they should be doing with their bodies. We have to stop allowing these sexualize ideas about us from being accepted. And that is not achieved by us covering up and not having sex.
My worth is not attached to my body, my worth is not up for you or anyone else to judge, my worth is not based off how some man thinks he can treat me.
A misogynistic “feminist”= someone who believes they are doing good for women but still view women through their misogynistic lens
• 22 May 2013 • 2 notes
“Can there be anything more outrageous than the idea that a healthy, grown woman, full of life and passion, must deny nature’s demand, must subdue her most intense craving, undermine her health and break her spirit, must stunt her vision, abstain from the depths and glory of sex experience until a ‘good’ man comes along to take her unto himself as a wife.”
— Emma Goldman, Anarchism and Other Essays, 1910. (via monaeltahawy)
• 21 May 2013 • 21 notes
You can catch me right here on my bed with a pile of Tonys Pizza Parties for the rest of the day/night. I still havent showered and still have paint in my hair from paintballing.
• 20 May 2013 • 1 note